Bigger Than Our Failures (by Tony Pyle)

Tony Pyle is a stud. He became a welcome addition to our family a few years ago when he married my cousin Danielle. For me, one of the hardest parts about moving away from Lansing was missing out on our bi-weekly Biggby meetings (I still miss it!). Tony is an amazing leader, mentor, and friend. Enjoy his wise words.

Future Son,

“I love you. I’m sorry. Please forgive me.”

Get used to hearing those statements from your dad.

For most of my life, my greatest fear had been the fear of failure. Failing in the tasks that I was given, in the game I was playing, or in the relationships I had. This fear continued in my life and shaped the ways I thought about work, rest, and decisions that I made.

Your life is going to be full of experiences and relationships, and I am eager for that165702_134984283229420_278157_n life to begin. Danielle and I are so excited to be the ones that God has chosen to love you and lead you spiritually. We understand that the responsibility we have been entrusted with is a big one. And that is to “Train up a child in the way he should go, even when he is old he will not depart from it” (Proverbs 22:6).

As your father, I am going to do my best to love you and encourage you as my son. To allow you to scrape your knees and get dirty. To let the tears run down your face when they need to. To have fun in the beautiful creation that God has given us. To live your life in passionate pursuit of the One who “formed and knitted you together” (Psalm 139:13).

I cannot tell you how excited I am for this day to begin! I feel as though God has blessed me with the experiences I have had in ministry to look forward to my time with you as my son.

But as your dad, I need you to know something.

My best will not be perfect.

More than anything, I wish I could be the perfect dad. To say all the right things at all the right moments that you need to hear it. To do all the things that would empower you as my son.

I have learned something really important in my life that I want you to know.

Jesus is bigger and better then our failures.

All of us fail. We miss the mark. We sin. Daily. And that is why we need Jesus.

Jesus was the only one to live a perfect life. To never fail. And Jesus chose to take our place on the Cross so that we could have a relationship with God. So that we can live or lives free of the fear of failure.

What did Jesus’ death free us from?

Obsessing about being the perfect dad. Worrying about how other people view me. Being consumed by comparing myself to others.

Know this son. I don’t expect perfection from you and I never will. You won’t be perfect as a son and I won’t be perfect as your dad. I understand that I may let you down sometimes. I may push you too hard or not hard enough. I may say one thing and then do another.

And it is in these moments….

“I love you. I’m sorry. Please forgive me.”

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